Independence Day!

The political partition of India caused one of the greatest human convulsions of history. partition shattered the myth of impartiality and neutrality. once the decision to divide the country had been taken everything had to be divided.

The statistics are staggering, 12 million people were displaced, 1 million died, 75,00 women were abducted and raped; families were divided; properties were plundered ad lost, homes were destroyed. in the public memory , the violence, disturbing realities that accompanied partition have remained blanketed in silence. and yet, in private, the voices of partition have never been stilled and its ramifications have not yet ended.

All this is past, HISTORY.

A new dawn awaits us, and it comes with new opportunity to write history the way we want to see it not the way it was intended for us. let us not let the bloody partition eclipse the freedom we have earned from the inhuman colonizers and destroy the fruits of freedom that we can enjoy now by nullifying the sacrifices done by the martyrs of our country, Hindu Muslim, both brothers.

Let us prove to the West what was known as the departing kick of the Imperialists, will not effect the sentiments shared by two halves of one whole. let the partition be a reality that defines the individual identity of separate nations but not of sentiments or of emotions. let us be one and celebrate Independence and not Partition. condemn communal rivalry, promote universal brotherhood!
Wishing all you Indians and my Pakistani friends a very;
Happy Independence Day!

Forgive And Forget??!!

i can forgive but cant forget.

forgiveness comes naturally to me, a wrong done to me is readily forgiven but i can never seem to forget. so in a way the matter is not done and over with, the burden of being wronged carries on forth.

P.S- this post has nothing to do with anyone. it is a random thought.

One thing that annoys me about people is their callous approach to life or things. Somehow I can deal with other flaws but however I can never come to terms with how a person deals with life in a nonchalant manner. They have this easygoing and laid back attitude. Often people will assume that world revolves around them and will function according to their own rules. For them it’s fine if they miss their flight, for their will catch the next one. If they have to submit a form somewhere, they will wait till the last day. They will stall doing a particular thing, which maybe of more importance than smoking up with their other friends. Its one big party, they are always up to some trick, even the most serious occasions seem funny to them, emotions seem trivial and maturity a fools burden of life. They may appear pleasing and almost entertaining to most, they maybe an obvious choice for frequenting or bonding but after a time they sure do get to you. Even their never-ending optimism makes you feel sick of them.

Maybe I am too much of a perfectionist here, but then life is so valuable, and to see people always taking it easy, bending a rule now and then, and doing their bit in their own sweet time not caring a bit of what others feel or do is something I consider somewhat illogical and extremely callous. Moreover, how can you always adopt this happy go lucky attitude towards things that may not be as trivial as you think they are? Optimism works wonders but sugary saccharine attitude frankly gets to me. I hate people who always have this attitude, as if life is one big joy ride.

Somehow I have always valued life; I have seen things and have always had a rather serious and matured way of looking at it and dealing with it. So when I see such people, I feel that they are a mere waste.

Call me demented or a moron. But one who hasn’t prioritized his/her life may be the flavor of the season, but soon after the joy ride is over, gets trashed and thrown out before he/she even knows it. So all those of the likes do -Review and reanalyze yourself!

Congratulations Mr Abhinav Bindra for making india proud by winning the gold in the
Men's shooting in the Beijing Olympic in the Men's 10 m air rifle.

Paranoia

Have you ever been bothered by things that are not directly related to you? i have. and i don't find a logic to it and never can i reason myself not to feel that way.

~it bothers when i read about the riots,massacre,mass plundering and dehumanization that took place before and after the partition of India

~ it angers me to see china try and make its presence felt in Indian air water and land,space.

~ it upsets me when i hear that India has not performed well in a particular sport

~it unnerves me to think that with more power,money and fame people are becoming more greedy and the world faces a threat of being wiped out

~it scares me to think of the world my children will be born into.

~i feel terrible to think of those innocent,who lost their lives and honour in the name of religion and terror.

~it shocks me to think in 21st century man still kills in the name of religion that does not endorse violence

~it depresses me how one, for his own selfish needs sacrifices the happiness and well being of millions.

~its traumatising to see that despite being the age os reason,logic and science,where other countries are flourishing, India still fails to do much for its people.

~it makes me despiar to think the system and anti-sytem both are corrupt beyond amendments and that we are left with no choices but choose among greater and lesser evils.

~it traumatizes me to see that we are raped of our fundamental rights and we are a mere drop into a vast ocean.our existence is of hardly any significance

~it grieves me, that there may not be a tomorrow someday, that all my dreams may remain just a dream.

Friends

most will say this typical filmy dialogue- "ladka aur ladki kabhi dost nahi bansakte" [a girl and guy can never be friends] does this mean opposite gender attraction and sexuality ruins what invariably would have been a good friendship?

i however beg to differ, despite being brought up in an all girls convent school; and now when i study in a co-educational institutional college, i firmly believe that a girl and a guy can not just be friends but good friends at that. it is a popular notion that yin and yang makes a whole, this is applicable not only to a couple in love but in friendship too. i wonder why parents adopt this attitude towards their kids, where they tend to question the nature of their friendship when they see their daughter/son get too friendly with a friend of the opposite gender. and this is not just applicable to parents but other peers too. what makes people raise their eyebrow to friendship and so called categories of friendship?

does really attraction and sexuality ruins what could have been a great friendship? my answer would be yes and no. firstly, when two people find that they are very compatible as friends and enjoy life the fullest they tend to wander just a bit thinking that good friends can end up as good lovers too, sometimes it works out sometimes it don't. and then again sometimes two friends don't look at each other as anything more than friends. this is all too complicated isn't it? actually friendship means different things to different people. its relative. so how we approach it and how we want to deal with friends and friendship is entirely depends on each person, there is hardly any rule book to it, to each his own.

it is so weird to think, that with time a guy and a girl friendship find social acceptance on the other side same gender friends are often frowned at :P! what has the world come to really?! just imagine, my boy friend being petrified of not just me but of my girl pal, Ipsy; he knows that whatever he says or does will be reported in its actuality to Ipsy in full details. not just that he half suspects that I'm in a parallel relationship with her, i think Amartya da [Ipsy's bf] would agree too. i mean duh! cant i really tell things to my closest friend?? :) i have this other friend, S and we had become fast friends from day one of college, we had always been topic of discussion and speculation, if or not we are more than friends, we still are. but who cares really? good friends are really hard to come by and when they do one must cling onto them. many of my acquaintances find it hard to believe that i have found durable friendships in the world wide web; who cares ultimately the friendship counts, the medium is irrelevant. isn't it? virtual or real friends matter the most. we made friends and friendship should not be based gender or sexual orientation of the friendship, but the feelings that is shared should be most important.

Bruno

Meet my new friend BRUNO he was gifted to me by Samik on Friendships Day.
ive always wanted a dog, even if Bruno is virtual, he is mine :D

Wishing all my friends in bloggerville a very
Happy Friendships Day!!!!!!

i wonder if guys really appreciate and respect women. people say beauty lies within, one must look beyond physical beauty of a girl to know the real her. it is not just their inner qualities they should admire but also that they do what they are supposed to do, as prescribed by the society to look presentable no matter what.
have you [the guys] every wondered how you would feel if molten wax is poured all over your arms, feet, underarms and ahem ahem...special places; and then the hair being painfully yanked out?? well try it out sometime. i who has limited knowledge about this bikini wax or Brazilian bikini wax, heard its tremendously painful but why do we do it? because you guys need a fuzz free experience. how i hate you uncivilized creatures, who think its ok to have hair all over but their girl should be groomed and should look presentable [pretty] 24* 7 ... hmmph





you rather date the "babe" than the girl next door

you find the babe hot and interesting but you would never appreciate the girl next door for her warmth and simplicity. and often would tag her as 'boring' and 'not interesting enough'.

well it does take a lot from the girl to be the babe just so that people find her desirable. it is not easy for girls from both category to be the object of fancy and take the risk of being leached at. whether you wear a micro mini or a salwar guys have a way of mentally undressing you.





guys harp on how they work their ass off in office. most women do too despite doing through a lot of physical hardships. ever wondered how she does it??

PMS are such bother really but yet we manage fine and carry on our daily life despite having terrible body ache, irritable mood or in some drastic case nausea. we don't even get to take time off, or we get to hear from mommies and grannies, women before you have endured it from centuries, its not a big deal now get it done and over with, without a fuss. and if this wasn't enough there are loads of superstitions and do's and don't s during this time. and in some households they are being treated as an outcast during the time. no trips to the "puja place'" no touching the kitchen or wandering anywhere near it. what the dunderheads don't realize that is a natural phenomena so that we can someday reproduce our kids and fulfill the so called circle of life.



every guy wants a virgin wife. why is this such a huge emphasis on virginity? is it the purity of the body or the mind that the guy seeks??? and why is it an issue when consenting adults want to indulge themselves. does the guy ever have to answer if he is a virgin or not? then why only the girl?

moreover have you ever wondered how much it hurts a girl when she looses her virginity?or appreciate that she thinks you are that important that she can trust herself with you?


have you guys ever wondered just how complicated and how traumatic childbirth can be? just imagine your pubic area being cut wide out and a life size baby trying to push its way through a tiny hole to enter the world. the mother gives in the last ounce of energy, muscles clenching and fibers tearing to make way for the baby to make its presence felt. and then the umbilical chord that connects that baby is snipped off. and her pain and trauma doesn't end here. she is sewn back into place and stinging antiseptic is poured generously on sections of her which has only just recovered from child birth. and if this wasn't enough she is made to walk within a day or two of her delivery so as to make her return to normal life. then within 7 days she has to learn how to incorporate the child into her life, now she is not important but her child and her needs are. do take time out and read this

so next time a guy makes gender remarks think again!! we may not be competent in every field like you, we may not understand gadgets or play sports but we do what only we can. so next time try and appreciate and respect a lady for what she is before generalizing her. both men and women are like the ying yang, till the balance is maintained, harmony reigns but the moment one looks to assume more prominence and state their superiority the balance is lost forever.

P.S- i don't intend to put down guys in any which way, but, this post is for those guys who happily take a dig at women for sheer pleasure. this is to tell them women are people you would rather not mess with. im terribly sorry for writing so explicitly.

ABORTION

Unlike other countries, in India abortion is illegal. though there are laws which has certain sections abortion is actually permissible, that too only if the mothers life is in danger. in mumbai a recent case that has been making headlines is, about a certain Mr and Mrs mehta moving to high court to ask for permission to abort their child. what they are concerned is not the gender of the child, but that the child has been detected with a serious heart disease which is terminal.

there are many who say, that the parents are irresponsible, they don't deserveo be the parents if they are not prepared to have the baby. others say by permitting such a case people will use it to kill girl child and make infanticide legal. while others say abortion is a sin.

i too don't support abortion but in this case it is only fair. because every child wants to have a healthy life and parents too would wish the same. when this child grows up he would question his parents why they entrusted him with such a handicap life. he too would deserve a good life like other normal kids. maybe this doesn't sound fair. as if the handicap don't deserve equal opportunities but then rationally thinking wouldn't the child, rather it is just a foetus, a giant cell now; be better of without life rather than have such a burden to deal with throughout life? i mean lets think about the mother, it is not easy on her to take this decision specially this being her first child but to ensure her child and her life a better direction she is willing to do what it takes. what good will that motherhood do if she had the baby and treated it as an obligation and specially if she wouldn't be able to treat their child to the best of medication for the terminal disease which in itself is not curable? i don't know if i was the mother what i would have done, but surely if i felt i wouldn't be able to give my child my all then i wouldn't be bringing my love into this world at all, but this is hypothetical don't know if i will ever be able to do it in real life.

what do you think about this? do you think the government should allow abortions and devise a system to keep infanticide in check at the same time? do u think the mehta's are wrong?