New Blog Rocks!

Finally it is done. I'm mighty proud of just how our blog has turned out. our joint blog known as the ROCK STAR'S LOUNGE thus came into being, after loads of discussions and debates over names, templates, ideas but it was all worth it. Most of us were present in the brainstorming session that went into wee hours of the morning to finalize the concept and to create the basic framework. then came inviting people. we were lucky that all the friends we approached stood by us and contributed even when the blog looked all dull and rather bleak. But finally both, Buzz and I have toiled hard all of Sunday to give the blog the final look that we so wanted, with ample ideas from Peter, Aqua girl and PJ; thanks guys!

ROCK STAR'S LOUNGE is a fun blog where we the blogger friends have teamed up to churn up some mindless fun, where we can be just silly, wacky, nerdy anything that we wanna be, without much restrictions. unhappy, gloomy posts are a strict no no. so is having brains while reading the posts. and any pessimistic attitude will definitely not be entertained.

Do visit us and drop in your valuable comments. Help us spread the joy.

PS- Please do your bit to spread the word that "Rock star's Lounge" is here to stay!CHEERS!

Happy Birthday Bloggie!

wishing you are very happy birthday bloggie




BLOG. a word that means so much and plays an integral part in my life. to me my blog is my best buddy, someone who listens ptiently to all that i have to say, someone who has seen me evolve through the crucial phases in my life. i blog to preserve my sanity. in this monotonous life, where everything we do is for survival and for a better life, i blog to keep the fire in me alive. the zest to put in my very best for my blog, for all my readers who have now become my friends. 2 years and 366 posts later; im here to thank all of you who have touched my life and made their pressence felt. thank you all for making my journey in bloggerville so enriching and full of love and warmth. here is my special way to thank you all who have made such a difference to my life.



Cindy- she touched my life with her warm and friendly ways but one day she was gone without a trace. this is to tell you that you are loved and remembered.




Buzz-we kept finding each other and then again fading into oblivion but somehow we always managed to find our way back.you are one of my oldest friends on bloggerville and i hope our friendship is here to stay.



Pj- you are a live wire. and each time i vist you, your childlike ways takes over me and i long to be a child again

Clouds- you are more of a sister than a friend. your mature and cool ways makes you a great pal to have around.





Ashwin- you are my ATF[ all time friend] ever there to lend me a hand.. and i hope the friendship continues.

Aqua girl- your passion for life draws me to you. your zest for life, makes me what to put that extra bit to my approach to life.

Keshi- you are someone who never fail to surprise me. from your innovative ideas, each day; to the mature head cemented on your firm shoulders. from the confident smile to your no non-sense gaze. you are what i desire to be.

Mann- you find and extra special mention. i know you are out of sight [due to your injury] but never out of my mind. the positivity and warmth that emit makes you stand out even in the crowd. who said virtual friends cant be good friends in reality? from sharing boy friend woes to discussing life we had had some wonderful conversations. here's wishing you a speedy recovery! get well soon babes! miss you

Stolen Tag

Ive stolen this tag from ceedy because i simply loved it...

Do you remember how you developed a love for reading?
my sister and my mom forced me initially to get started on reading books to cultivate it as a good habit. but soon it was not a matter of being told to read but it became a choice...

What are some books you read as a child?
i started reading NOODY first and then series of enid blyton mysteries, secret seven,malory towers, st clares, famous five, farthaway tree series, etc became my whole world...ive read all of enid blyton books :)

What is your favourite genre?
romance and fiction, though i admit im a sucker for romance... i must have read millions of mills and boons and never tire out reading them...

Do you have a favourite novel?
i loved The Thorn Birds by Colleen Mcculloughis is my all time favourite,harry potter series, paulo coelho books all falls under the category of my favourite books..not just one book, that counts

Do you usually have more than one book you are reading at a time?
i ahve a stack of books waiting to be read but i read one book at a time...

Do you read nonfiction in a different way or place than you read fiction?
it doesnt really matter actually for me anything that has something writted or printed is a reading material.infact i read paper bags made of newspapers as well :)

Do you buy most of the books you read, or borrow them, or check them out of the library?
all of the above, sometimes i go on to buying a book that i had borrowed and read. but mostly i borrow books unless i see something that i just have to buy.

Do you keep most of the books you buy?If not, what do you do with them?
of course i keep them, i have a collection of my books; straight from my childhood days

If you have children, what are some of the favorite books you have shared with them?Were they some of the same ones you read as a child?
id tell my kids when i had them, but for the present i keep telling my neice and my students to devour all of enid blyton books they can lay hands on; the books does wonders to a child's imagination. yes they are the same that i read as a kid.

What are you reading now?
the god of small things-arundhati roy

Do you keep a TBR (to be read) list?
definately

What books would you like to reread?
harry potter series, paulo coelho for sure and there are so many more to mention

Who are your favourite authors?
J k rowling, enid blyton, paulo coelho, kamila shamsie, chetan bhagat, shakespeare, etc

now i tag-buzz
PJ
and aqua girl

Imagine you are blissfully happy and your happiness knows no bounds and just then Mr Yamraj- the god of death, walks in your room and tells you your time is almost up. that you have just 3 wishes that can be granted as your last wishes and after which you have to ride mr yamraj's bike to heaven or hell depending on your track record. what will you do?? [at the cost of sounding silly here, please pardon me :P]

if i were in such a situation; id wish..

my 1st wish would be that
all the wishes of my family and loved one's are fulfilled, so that they lead a happy and prosperous life ahead.

2Nd wish
i wish i can meet all the people i value in my life before my life runs out, so that i can thank them for making my life so worthwhile.

3rd and last wish will be
that i have a painless death and that I'm not ever cremated [I'm scared of being burnt after death, id prefer being buried, to hell with religion]

Role of intimacy in a relationship

i was wondering about intimacy in a relationship. I'm c'mon we are are adults and lets not be hypocritical here. my point here is to determine the role that intimacy plays in a relationship and just what makes us feel comfortable enough to be intimate with the other person; the person can be a boy friend/girl friend,wife or even live in partners.


I'm a prude in matters of intimacy but then i do realize that hugging or holding hands or even kissing or making love is an extension of the feelings that we harbour. but there is as much as i would display. im very conservative when it comes to PDA. intimacy is a very personal thing and should be kept within control when in public, holding hands is fine or an occasional hugging or a brief kiss is pretty acceptable too; but going overboard with PDA is just so gross. the other day i was a mall and a couple walked by. the man seemed the possessive kind, who kept on pulling the girl close and hugged her to him or delivered a kiss every now and then, while the girl was visibly uncomfortable. for bystanders like us it was very embarrassing to see such behaviour.


they say, human touch is very important in a relationship.so of course intimacy plays an important part in it. personally making love is something id like to explore only after my vows are exchanged. however I'm not averse to those who choose to consummate their love. for me i need to trust and respect my husband to give my body and soul up to the person. you will ask me, why, isn't love important while making love? id say, other than love marriages most are arranged there love happens later. in either way intimacy is a natural course to follow in love or relationship.



so what is your take on the role of intimacy in a relationship? and just where to draw the line with PDA.

Social Menace part 3

i had to travel a long distance in a yet another jam packed bus to go to a job interview. what i had to experience was horrendous... just imagine the lady standing right behind me was digging her nose and wiping her fingers on the rod she was holding to stand up? not just that she was stinking. gawd! and moreover she was talking to her friend in the loudest of voices, about some master she works for and his habits and his conjugal relationship with his wife.

somewhere a young boy was talking to his friend about what happened that day at the tuition's that his friend had missed; the topic was for all to hear, what is the best strategy to make the girl agree to date him.there was an elaborate discussion with peels of laughter and mirth for everyone to hear as the bus was stuck in a jam. then a strange looking mad man got up, and started broadcasting his own news channel with personal inputs. no this is not the end to my woes today. but there was more to come.

two women in their late 50's got up in the bus and one literally hung on to me while the other merely leaned against me to stand. my hands were already paining from all the strain of standing for a long time and then to manage such people. then there was this guy who wouldn't budge from a ladies seat to allow a lady to sit down! god! the conductor had to tell him to get up only then did he get up that too he kept on abusing and arguing. as the crowd cleared somewhat the man sitting opposite to me became visible, i almost immediately wished this didn't happen. the man was spitting on his shirt more than outside the window and mind you he was scratching his crotch merely in full public view..yewww!!!

i wonder why people don't develop some simple civic sense. personal hygiene should come to all and also we should be aware if we are being the cause of inconvenience to anyone.

This week that was

This last week of pujas was very eventful to say the least. There were a few points that really made my pujas an enriching experience. Gloom, sadness and despair were close at hand but it could never dampen my mood which with vengeance I tried to remain gloom free for this was my last pujas in Calcutta. Next year I will be miles away from hom, with probably no leave. So I was determined to have the time of my life and I did.

What struck me during the pujas was, how people, irrespective of the kind of problems they face, the kind of life they lead otherwise, try and put on their best clothes and their best spirit to enjoy and celebrate the pujas with great fanfare. There were smiles even on those millions of policemen who sacrificed their holidays to manage the ocean of people out on the streets, during the festive occasion being away from their own families who need them. Calcutta police and the Civic Police did a splendid job manning the traffic!

My mind was the seat of contradicting thoughts and emotions. I wished and prayed that this is my last puja here [so that I can pursue my dream career outside the city] and on the other hand it hurt me even to imagine that I will have to stay away from an occasion that is now an integral part of our being. Pujas are no longer just a festive occasion, it’s a hope where people want to be in their best to enjoy before the lights are being taken off, pandals are dismantled and life comes back to haunt. I am not a religious person but pujas are something that makes one out of me; the ashtami anjali, the sandhi pujo, the dakhi, boron and sindur khela...

I spent a day with samik’s folks this pujas. And it felt great. I met his jiju for the first time and he was a perfect gentleman. He immediately put me in ease. And it was worth everything to see mohor play with her dad whom she had met after months. No one could tear her away from jiju. And the whole scene was heart rending to the core. I felt welcomed and very much a part of what was a tempting possibility, but I have to hold on to my ambitions and dreams of a career, and then being a part of this dream will be a reality too.

Another great event that occurred was a high school reunion with school buddies after 5 long years. Almost everyone had changed. Everyone looked more mature and ladylike unlike what were in school.Most of us met up. Sangita, ria, priyam, Natasha, anna, sayanti, srimoyee all turned up. And the best part was that despite having several issues in school, and being adamant not to turn up and face the people whom they had issues with, my friends irrespective of what had happened before, met up and decided to have the time of our lives. It was heart wrenching to see the initial group of friends reunite as if time has not been lost. As if there were no issues and it was perfectly normal to smile and hug each other as if the next moment would prove fatal. Laughter and giggles were the order of the day along with loads of yelling and a lot of excited news of those whom we used to know. We were all sorry it had to end this way but we had to leave. With the blink of an eye almost 5 hours had gone by. Soon it was time to leave but we all promised to make this an annual event! Phew! It was an awesome day! :D

Samik and I spent quite a time together, more than what we had anticipated. But most was lost in bickering. Our first formal dinner date was good but not so memorable. But I was atleast happy that I could be with someone I love the most and what to be with because pujo is no pujo without him. So alls well that ends well.

Pictures of pujo, reunion with friends, samik’s family are all to be found in a few moments in my photoblog known as the kaleidoscope of memories. Do crop in comments telling me what you think of them. I hope you all had an enriching festive time!

im so sorry people im unable to frequent your blogs...but i promise i ll read and comment as soon as possible.im just caught up with the pujas...it begins today. but i promise when im back..i ll bring with me loads of pictures to show just how much fun i had...please bear with me. wishing you all a very happy holidays.... :)

wishing you all a very happy and prosperous durga pujas!
god speed!

i wish closing my eyes,

would deem my problems non-existent

alas!but it is not to be!